We experience this pull toward the familiar in the different discomforts we often feel as we change. Utilizing empathy doesn't mean letting the narcissist off the hook when he's behaving badly. There is a well known expression current among those who have had most experience in the treatment of patients suffering from tuberculosis that tuberculosis takes only the quitters, that is to say that only those succumb to consumption who have not the strength of will to face the issue bravely and without discouragement to push through with the measures necessary for the treatment of their disease. Move to the Opposite If you have been angry, then do something that is just the contrary to break the habit. She admitted that it had been a big hit to her self-esteem, but she didn't want to just sit at home and feel useless. Have you tried to manage them in the past? If our relationship has lasted many years, I likely know what causes you to retreat to the ...